I recently moved to another state, where I don't know many people so I get to start a lot of things fresh and dating is one of those things. I get to decide what I want, all brand new. I get to look back at the relationships that I've had recently since my last serious… Continue reading Starting Fresh
I’m a Secondary
I'm currently a Secondary and I like it. We don't actually subscribe to the hierarchy labels but for the sake of talking about my current dynamic in simple terms, I'm going to use it. This is the first time I've been in a dynamic where my anchor partner is in an established long term relationship.… Continue reading I’m a Secondary
Guess What Guys? I’m Out of the Woods
I can say I'm officially out of the woods of heartbreak land. And it feels fucking great. Heartbreak was hands down one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through. I spent a lot of time feeling like I was dying and emotionally void. Time was what did it. Time, some life changes… Continue reading Guess What Guys? I’m Out of the Woods
Don’t Let Jealousy Rule Your Relationship
This is not a rant on monogamy. Loveline asked the question "what advice do you wish you would have heard before you started dating?" My answer is don't let jealousy rule your relationship. I'm not talking about open relationships, I'm talking about all relationships. I'm not saying never get jealous or that it's not normal,… Continue reading Don’t Let Jealousy Rule Your Relationship
You’re Fearless Aren’t You
I was having a very lovely make out session with a really beautiful guy. It was passionate yet soft and intimate which was weird because we just met. For the most part I'm the kind of person who keeps their eyes open while kissing. He stopped kissing me and touched my face and said "you're… Continue reading You’re Fearless Aren’t You
Learning About Love
2016 has definitely been the year of learning about love. I learned I am capable of loving someone so deeply that my heart feels full and like it could never be filled by anyone else in the world. I learned that love comes in a lot of forms. I learned that love doesn't mean compatability… Continue reading Learning About Love
Mother’s Day
Not everyone gets a nice mom. I understand that some people who knew my mom will read this and feel the need to reach out, please don't. You're feelings are based on the relationship you had with her or the one you had with your own mother. We didn't have the conventional mother daughter relationship.… Continue reading Mother’s Day
Are you really my friend?
All girls can relate to this, maybe guys too but I am not male therfore I can't speak from the male perspective. And I guess this is kind of a rant because I can't think of a way other than first person to word it. Over the years you make guy friends, sometimes they're more… Continue reading Are you really my friend?
Why I Don’t Cheat
I've fought hard to live honestly as a non monogamous person. Dating around isn't always fun and reindeer games. There's men that I've really likes that haven't been ok with it and couldn't date because I wouldn't entertain the idea of monogamy. I've had to break hearts of guys that thought they could change my… Continue reading Why I Don’t Cheat
I Was Monogamous Once
Yep I was actually in a 4 year monogamous relationship. I didn't plan it that way, when I started dating the guy I happen to have not been seeing anyone else then he asked me to be mono and I figured I could give it a try as an adult. You don't really know your… Continue reading I Was Monogamous Once
